Carlos Xuma – Advanced Audio Coaching Session 16

Advanced Audio CoachingSession 16Table of Contents1. 11:53ANGERLeveraging anger for powerMen and angerNOT temperGasolineUnharnessedFuel for forward motionGoodfellasIn the eyesControlled, but let them know it’s thereNo reactionYou bring it, not respond with itMarlon BrandoBetween Stimulus and ResponseCalmYour jobFirst one, face valuePushing buttons?Take controlIf she reacts and you back down2. 14:58VIRILITYDifferent perspectiveDefinitionPotencyManly characterIntoxicationAbility to PERFORMWomen must waitRoutines become unnecessaryJust bitchingSportsCarsRock and rollKung fu moviesVideo gamesPornAction moviesBe who you ARE3. 18:54COMPATIBILITY/CHEMISTRYTraits and similarities vs. attractionMost “compatibility” is unnecessaryMust have/nice to haveExampleFlexibility rather than matchingEasygoingWomen are critical List of requirements exampleHonesty is not an attraction elementSense of humorBeaten by lifeNot in controlCommon interestsDifferences are interestingAdding to valueHow flexible or relaxed is she?ChemistryThree S’sX-factorGame of disclosureCreate a whole forming chemistrySelectively discloseAll options will be yoursWhy online dating disappoints4. 9:57KISS TEST/LEADNorth Beach ExamplePlay with the energyHand pullYou take initiativeShe followsUse of touch/kinoUse hand to steerFeel the feedbackHand holding1. SteeringKeep it short/intermittentCreative tension2. TestHand before kissPull in, she followsLeadingCompliance – trust indicator5. 11:57COOKING pt. IFood is sensualCeremony and bondingImportance of foodExpectations and baggageDon’t lock it inProvider roleHer house? Your house?First, second, and third datesWhat to cookRecipesWomen are interpretivewww.epicurious.comMomAlways involve her in preparationInvolvementToolsTime it6. 10:25COOKING pt. IITaste as you cookEverything FRESHWine rulesFruit/sweet/chocolateStart with greens/breadAppetizer?Main mealDessert (take time)ReviewKnow her tastes/dietEthnic backgroundBuild the recipe upGive it depthWomen find it sexyDesire to make good foodPrimary focus7. 19:13ALPHA WOMENDominant – targetInterested in menTeasing/CockyDifferences in Alpha/BetaAppearances are deceivingReaction to teasingAlpha woman confidenceWatch her reactionThreatened or giving upSuzie’s fightHealthy interactionsResponse to competitionPassiveOversensitive – high maintenanceMan is a resourceConflict is necessaryGood fightingAvoidance of discomfort Avoiding disapproval and not taking risksBeing with each other instead of HAVING each otherHappiness is being ALPHADeserving and inadequacyKathy example – F*** me attitudeUnderstanding from patternsHaving a Beta Woman – less challengeApply your desiresCompetitive = AlphaBeware the low Beta8. 16:27BURN THE objectIONOn the rapport pathInternet exampleIdentify the possible blockExpose itFemale psychology of choosing vs. being chosenWaiting for menWomen and their internal processingBottled up”We need to talk…”You become the problemShe wants to make it validBring it out into the lightDirected by emotionUsing teasing to burn itExamplesExpose it, make it seem sillyReviewExpose, turn it over, burn it9. 13:22COMMUNICATION: DON’T FIX HERDon’t take it seriouslyMen – actWomen – externally processListen without correcting or fixingThinking out loudHow to identify “real” concernsHumor themAlways go along, never conflictAikidoRedirect the energyExampleFundamental – Never correctJust “talk”ExampleIt’s all about rapportHow to argueNo facts, only emotionsSee past the distractionListening Law